When the world makes it hard for a romantic to live in it
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Can romance burn us in the end?I have always been a romantic person, and I believe some of that comes from wanting to have hope in the world to see the good things in life and in people and to dream about a positive future.
I don't think there is anything wrong with this as long as our romance has some push back to understand and acknowledge reality, otherwise, it is inevitable that us romancers will get burned.
Not a very romantic thought really.
See romance doesn't have to be just in relationships, it can be the whole outlook on life.
How can life kill the romance?
People, friends, enemies can burn us and make us hurt beyond belief because we cannot believe how anybody could do that. That's what happens when relationships, friendships and/or family relationships explode. One person attacks and the other is so shocked by what is being forced upon them their romantic notion of seeing the best in a person, is suddenly burnt to shreds because what they just experienced was anything but the best.
You take a group of ten people and put them in a meeting room. Then have each of those ten people come in with different attitudes. The romancer, is so thrilled to be in a room to brainstorm about the new development. However, it occurs as the meeting progresses that a negative person, burnt themselves by past experiences, isn't coming to the table to be a team player. But not just this person, the person next to them, starts talking badly under their breath to the person next to them, how bad that person's outlook is.
Now the romancer, thought everybody was getting on, the brainstorming session was going well and yet hears the true feelings from those around them and the reality hits, 'what I thought was good is not; it's tainted.'
Is it bad to have a romantic view on life?
Do romancers walk around with rose coloured glasses? Maybe. Is something wrong with this? I sure hope not.
Are romancers sensitive?
The simply answer, no. They are just not aware until they are among other types of people that the experience and situation is not quite the hype they thought it was.
Should romancers change who they are?
Why take the hope of a better world from someone who believes it can be? Not only this, but romancers can be huge world changers and leaders who drive the good change to occur.
If you try to take the hope away from a romancer, all this will do is take away their quest for meaning and make it really hard for them to feel good and hopeful about anything or anyone. Losing trust in the world and what it has to offer.
Words from a romancer
Now as a romancer myself, I can honestly say, being positive about the world and the future and finding the good in things in life and in people, makes me feel good. I feel good within me. It doesn't mean I don't get burned. It doesn't mean I don't experience the ups and downs of life. However, in those darkest times, I have something within that pulls me out. It's like I have angels holding my hands when I can't physically move because of the huge amount of stress in a really life changing situation and in that moment, I know that even in this hardest moment, I am going to be okay.
So is it bad to have a romantic view of the world?
No. It definitely isn't.
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